Laurie-Ann's bridesmaids page

A Message to my bridesmaids, Tara (my sister) and Allison (who is like a sister).
Thank you for being part of my wedding. All of us have been through a lot with school and I am hoping that we can have some fun in the last stages of planning after that pressure is off. I know that both of you will look beautiful, you in gold Tara, and you in plum, Allison.

I will be updating this page with other things that I've found useful on the internet concerning bridesmaids. I know that both of you are aware of these "tips for bridesmaids," but others who may find this page, perhaps planning their own weddings, may find them helpful.

I also thank the others involved in the wedding party, my dear friend and 'little brother' Ron Piggott (usher and M/C), Gary Bielert (best man), my dear friend Gloria Stafford (reader), Lori Weber (our soloist), Lori Prowse (pianist) and our pastor David Sherwin.

With love,
Laurie-Ann


The following "Helpful Bridesmaid's Guide" is taken from Wedding Bells Magazine.

If a bride has asked you to be a member of her bridal party, you should be honoured. This invitation shows that you are an important figure in her life, that she values your friendship, and that she trusts you to be helpful and responsible during her wedding planning and on the day itself. Above all, she is asking for your love and support at this turning point in her life. Your role as a member of the bridal party is not to be taken lightly.

Bridesmaids and the maid of honour are generally expected to pay the cost of their outfits for the wedding, with the exception of any floral accessories and small items. If you are concerned about how much it will cost, your best option is to have a straightforward conversation with the bride and find out right away what she expects you to pay for. If you and unable to afford these expenses, discuss this with the bride. Unless she can help you to pay, it might be best for you to graciously decline the invitation to be in the bridal party and offer to play some other role instead.

Duties of the maid of honour

Before the wedding day, the honour attendant (male or female) is responsible for lending the bride as much support as she or he can muster. This is often best supplied with generous offers to help in any way possible.

Here are some of the ways you can do this:

-Help with the addressing of invitations.

-Give a shower for the bride (optional) or co-host a party with the best man (optional).

-Attend all pre-wedding parties if you can, including showers (although you are not obligated to bring a gift to more than one shower) and the rehearsal dinner, if there is one.

-At showers, help to keep a record of the gifts for thank-you notes.

-Help select the outfits for the bridal party.

-Liase with the bridesmaids regarding their dresses and accessories. Organize any fitting appointments and make sure the dresses are correctly tailored, that adjustments are made on time, and that the gowns are delivered to the right places.

-As the wedding day draws near, make sure the bridesmaids have adequate transportation to get them to the wedding site on time.

Duties of the maid of honour on the wedding day

Your duites may include any or all of the following:

-Arrive early at the bride's home (or wherever the bride is planning to dress) to help with the gown and any of the final packing for the honeymoon, assist the hairstylist and/or make-up artist and the photographer, and, if things start to get out of hand, to calm nerves, direct traffic, and pour coffee. Make sure you get the groom's ring from the bride.

-Since it is traditional for the bride to arrive at the wedding site with her father, the honour attendant can opt to travel alone, or with the bridesmaids and the mother of the bride. You may offer to take the bridesmaids' flowers to the wedding site and ensure that each maid receives her bouquet. Once at the site, you can help to make final adjustments to the brides' train and veil.

-During the ring exchange, the honour attendant holds the bride's bouquet and gives the groom's ring to the bride.

-At the reception, the honour attendant stands to the left of the groom in the receiving line with a constant smile and an endless supply of upbeat comments (you needn't worry about this one Tara). You may offer a toast to the newly weds after the dinner if you have made arrangements to do so with the master of ceremonies.

-Once the dancing begins, the honour attendant should try to mingle among the guests and meet as many of them as possible. You may be asked to ensure that all the guests have signed the guest book. At a cue from the bride, you should slip away to help her change into her going-away outfit. You should then take care of the bridal gown, delivering it wherever it needs to go.

Duties of the bridesmaids:

The bridesmaids' duties will probably include running errands for the bride to help her streamline her wedding plans. You might be asked to participate in work parties (addressing invitations, making decorations). On the day itself, you might be assigned a special task, such as helping to round up people for the photographer, or taping the cards to the gifts on the gift table. Be willing to do whatever is required of you.

Assist in any way you can throughout the wedding planning process. Attend all pre-wedding parties (if you can), including showers. You are not expected to bring a gift to more than one shower. You are also part of the rehearsal dinner. Make yourself available for any fittings.

On the wedding day, arrive at the ceremony site on time and for the rest of the day, follow the bride's timetable diligently, being on hand at all tims so as not to hold up the photographer, formation of the receiving line, etc.

Ensure before leaving for the reception that the ceremony site is clean and tidy. Make sure all guests have a ride to the reception. Take special care to ensure that all reception guests, especially the elderly and the disabled, are comfortable.

Stand in the receiving line, to the left of the maid of honour (Allison, don't worry about this). Once the reception is under way, mingle with the guests and make introductions. Help to transport gifts brought to the reception to the newlywed's home.