SEXUAL ASSAULT AND RAPE
                           --ADVICE FOR MEN--

1.  Think about whether you really want to have sex with someone who
    doesn't want to have sex with you; how will you feel afterwards if
    your partner tells you s/he didn't want to have sex.

2.  If you are getting a double message from a woman, speak up and
    clarify what she wants.  If you find yourself in a situation with a
    woman who is unsure about having sex or is saying "no," back off.
    Suggest talking about it.

3.  Be sensitive to women who are unsure whether they want to have sex.
    If you put pressure on them, you might be forcing them.

4.  Do not assume you both want the same degree of intimacy.  She might
    be interested in some sexual contact other than intercourse.  There
    may be several kinds of sexual activity you might mutually agree to
    share.

5.  Stay in touch with your sexual desires.  Ask yourself if you are
    really hearing what she wants.  Do not let your desires control your
    actions.

6.  Communicate your sexual desires honestly and as early as possible.

7.  Do not assume her desire for affection is the same as a desire
    for sex.

8.  A woman who turns you down for sex is not necessarily rejecting you
    as a person; she is expressing her decision not to participate in a
    single act at that time.

9.  No one asks to be raped.  No matter how a woman behaves, she does
    not deserve to have her body used in ways she does not want.

10. The fact that you were intoxicated is not legal defense to 
    rape.  You are responsible for your actions, whether you are
    drunk or sober.

11. Be aware that a man's size and physical presence can be intimidating
    to a woman.  Many victims report that the fear they felt based on
    the man's size and presence was the reason why they did not fight
    back or struggle.